I’ll start with ENFP, because I’d be lying if I said ENFP wasn’t my favorite type. Their unique energy is just so interesting to me. The person I’m closest to is an ENFP, so I admit that I am biased in the way I favor them.
I love the way my friends’ Ne can come up with an infinite number of possibilities. She can truly think outside the box in a way I find difficult. We both love ideas, but in very different ways. She can jump from idea to idea, whereas I focus intensely on one idea. We balance each other out. I help her stick to some ideas and she helps me consider new possibilities.
The way she jumps from idea to idea can be frustrating for both of us sometimes. One moment she’s suggesting a project, and while my NiTe is still planning how to do it, she loses interest for it altogether. She gets discouraged over how few of her ideas she has remained passionate about, but she does have some things she doesn’t get bored with. Like me! 🙂
My friends’ Fi is always evolving. She is always developing her moral code and deciding what she believes. She desperately wants to be unique and true to herself. She feels like she’s too normal, too average, too shallow. But I’ve never met anyone like her, and she’s one of the deepest people I’ve ever had the privilege of knowing. She truly cares about the people she loves.
She’s also stubborn. Once she’s decided she believes in something it takes a lot to sway her. She’s turned nonconformity into a moral principle, and her individuality is truly refreshing. We’ve been friends since we were children, so a lot of our moral codes were developed together. We have our differences, but we were allowed to ask hard questions around each other.
Although we do ask moral questions, most of our discussions are through Te. We don’t talk about feelings much. When we do, it’s usually a sign that one of us is in a really bad spot. We can express our emotions with each other, we just usually do it subtly.
Her Te is one of the major reasons we can connect so easily. We both care about efficiency, and we like to talk about ways we could make things more effective. We solve problems together and bounce ideas off each other. It’s great to have someone who loves the theoretical as well as the practical and can talk about both of them with me.
Her Si keeps both of us in line sometimes. Just that small part of her that cares about tradition is enough to remind us both to have self control. Some topics are just off limits for frequent discussion, and I respect that.
When I’m in a dark spot (which happens quite often due to my depression) I can count on my ENFP friend to lift me up. I have become very close to her over the past year, and our friendship has led me to see things in different ways.
I think I have her to thank, at least in part, for the fact that I have matured through my depression rather than morally devolved. It really could’ve gone either way, and without my friend there to help me I’m not sure if I would be the person I am today.